WHEN SOMEONE YOU KNOW STRUGGLES WITH FEAR, ANXIETY AND STRESS
By: Stanley Popovich
What do you do when someone you know has to deal with persistent fears, anxieties, or even depression? Well the first thing you need to do is to get the person to seek the services of a professional who can lead them in the right direction and give them the help they need. In addition, here are some other techniques you can use to help the person cope.
Learn as much as you can in managing anxiety and depression. There are many books and information that will educate you on how to deal with fear and anxiety. Share this information with the person who is struggling. Education is the key in finding the answers your looking for in managing your fears.
Be understanding and patient with the person struggling with their fears. Dealing with depression and anxiety can be difficult for the person so do not add more problems than what is already there.
In every anxiety-related situation you experience, begin to learn what works, what doesn’t work, and what you need to improve on in managing your fears and anxieties. For instance, you have a lot of anxiety and you decide to take a walk to help you feel better. The next time you feel anxious you can remind yourself that you got through it the last time by taking a walk. This will give you the confidence to manage your anxiety the next time around.
Another thing to remember is that things change and events do not stay the same. For instance, you may feel overwhelmed today with your anxiety and feel that this is how you will feel the rest of the week or month. This isn’t correct. No one can predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy. Even if the thing that you feared does happen there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. You never know when the help and answers you are looking for will come to you.
When your fears and anxieties have the best of you, seek help from a professional. The key is to be patient, take it slow, and not to give up. In time, you will be able to find those resources that will help you with your problems.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
When Your Friends Do Not Understand You Mental Health Condition
By: Stan Popovich
You are just diagnosed with a mental health condition such as depression, bipolar disorder, panic disorder, addiction, OCD, or some other mental health disorder. You go see a counselor to get help. Eventually your relatives and closest friends find out your condition. The problem is that some of them get on your case and do not understand what you are going through. Here are four ways to deal with this situation.
1. Listen To The Professionals And Not Your Friends–Your friends may mean well, but when it comes down to it, the professionals know your situation more than anyone. They know what you are going through and are trained to deal with your situation. Your friends do not have the answers to your medical condition. When you have questions about your mental health situation consult with your counselor or other mental health professional. Listen to them and follow their advice and not your friends.
2. Your Goal Is To Get Better–Your goal is to get better, period. Don’t waste your time arguing with your friends or relatives who are giving you a difficult time. This isn’t a public relations event where you need to get everyone’s approval. This is your life and you’re the one suffering. Your main focus is for you to get better. This is the number one thing.
3. Tell Your Friends To Learn About Your Condition–Tell your friends and relatives that the best way for them to help you is to learn about your condition. They could talk to a counselor, they could do family therapy, they could read some good books or join you at a support group to learn about your condition. They won’t know exactly the pain your suffering but they will have some idea of what you are going through. If some of your friends won’t do this, then stay away from them. They will only make things worse.
4. Distance Yourself From People Who Give You A Hard Time–This may seem cruel but if some of your friends or relatives are hindering your progress in getting better, then kindly tell them to follow step Three or else tell them to stay away and go bother someone else. Distance yourself from those people who won’t make an effort to help understand what you are going through. You need to surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Again, if you have problems or issues with a particular person, you can always ask your counselor for advice on how to deal with them.
Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.
Remember your goal is to get better. Treat your mental health issues as a medical condition. If you have a medical condition, you go see a doctor to help treat it. Same thing applies to your mental health issues. Go see a professional and focus on getting better. Don’t try to get everyone’s approval.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods”.For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
By: Stan Popovich
You are just diagnosed with a mental health condition such as depression, bipolar disorder, panic disorder, addiction, OCD, or some other mental health disorder. You go see a counselor to get help. Eventually your relatives and closest friends find out your condition. The problem is that some of them get on your case and do not understand what you are going through. Here are four ways to deal with this situation.
1. Listen To The Professionals And Not Your Friends–Your friends may mean well, but when it comes down to it, the professionals know your situation more than anyone. They know what you are going through and are trained to deal with your situation. Your friends do not have the answers to your medical condition. When you have questions about your mental health situation consult with your counselor or other mental health professional. Listen to them and follow their advice and not your friends.
2. Your Goal Is To Get Better–Your goal is to get better, period. Don’t waste your time arguing with your friends or relatives who are giving you a difficult time. This isn’t a public relations event where you need to get everyone’s approval. This is your life and you’re the one suffering. Your main focus is for you to get better. This is the number one thing.
3. Tell Your Friends To Learn About Your Condition–Tell your friends and relatives that the best way for them to help you is to learn about your condition. They could talk to a counselor, they could do family therapy, they could read some good books or join you at a support group to learn about your condition. They won’t know exactly the pain your suffering but they will have some idea of what you are going through. If some of your friends won’t do this, then stay away from them. They will only make things worse.
4. Distance Yourself From People Who Give You A Hard Time–This may seem cruel but if some of your friends or relatives are hindering your progress in getting better, then kindly tell them to follow step Three or else tell them to stay away and go bother someone else. Distance yourself from those people who won’t make an effort to help understand what you are going through. You need to surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Again, if you have problems or issues with a particular person, you can always ask your counselor for advice on how to deal with them.
Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.
Remember your goal is to get better. Treat your mental health issues as a medical condition. If you have a medical condition, you go see a doctor to help treat it. Same thing applies to your mental health issues. Go see a professional and focus on getting better. Don’t try to get everyone’s approval.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods”.For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
If Only They Knew: The Experiences Of A Managing Fear Author
By: Stan Popovich
I was eighteen and I was going to the main campus at Penn State to start college. I really wanted to go to Penn State however the odds of me succeeding Were against me. First, I knew that it was very hard for a freshman to pass all of their classes when they went to the main campus. I was smart but I wasn’t super smart like my friends who got A’s all the time. This was also my first time away from home for more than a week. I was very close to my family and I knew that I would struggle with being home sick.
The odds of me succeeding were against me but something deep down inside told me that I had to give it my best shot. If I was going to fail, then I would have to give it my best.
The first week I was at Penn State was tough but somehow I got by. My classes were really difficult and making friends was difficult. I also missed my family. A month into my first semester, I felt ok however my fears and anxieties struck. If anyone experienced a lot of panic attacks, then you have an idea of how I felt. It was unbearable. I determined that I would go to the local church to pray everyday before my classes. I also did a lot of exercise and spent some time with my friends which helped a lot. I also talked to a counselor and took it one day at a time.
There were times that my issues were unbearable but I had this feeling in the pit of my stomach that if I did not make it, I would let a lot people down. I don’t know what that was all about, but I had this feeling. I did not quit.
In time I became better at dealing with my fears and anxieties. I was at Penn State for 5 years. My friends were very smart and they would study the night before and get A’s. I would study a week before and was happy I could just pass. My fears and anxieties would come go every semester. There were no such thing as an easy class and my mental health and fears made each semester a challenge. I did a lot of praying when I was at Penn State.
By some miracle I graduated from Penn State. I continued to deal with my fears and anxieties. I realized that I would always struggle with these things. A couple of years after I graduated from Penn State I decided to write a book based on the techniques I used to manage my fears and anxieties. Today, my book has helped thousands of people and my book and free articles on my website has been read from all over the world. I also have been on TV and the Radio and published in many magazines.
I also have more than 20 years experience in dealing with fear and anxiety.
I never discuss my fearful problems to my friends and people who know me. I try to live a regular life. My struggles will never go away. I am thankful that I can get by. I know many people who haven’t. I don’t look for sympathy. I focus on getting by than trying to please my friends.
One friend once made a comment to me that “I Have It Easy In Life”. If only they knew.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
I was eighteen and I was going to the main campus at Penn State to start college. I really wanted to go to Penn State however the odds of me succeeding Were against me. First, I knew that it was very hard for a freshman to pass all of their classes when they went to the main campus. I was smart but I wasn’t super smart like my friends who got A’s all the time. This was also my first time away from home for more than a week. I was very close to my family and I knew that I would struggle with being home sick.
The odds of me succeeding were against me but something deep down inside told me that I had to give it my best shot. If I was going to fail, then I would have to give it my best.
The first week I was at Penn State was tough but somehow I got by. My classes were really difficult and making friends was difficult. I also missed my family. A month into my first semester, I felt ok however my fears and anxieties struck. If anyone experienced a lot of panic attacks, then you have an idea of how I felt. It was unbearable. I determined that I would go to the local church to pray everyday before my classes. I also did a lot of exercise and spent some time with my friends which helped a lot. I also talked to a counselor and took it one day at a time.
There were times that my issues were unbearable but I had this feeling in the pit of my stomach that if I did not make it, I would let a lot people down. I don’t know what that was all about, but I had this feeling. I did not quit.
In time I became better at dealing with my fears and anxieties. I was at Penn State for 5 years. My friends were very smart and they would study the night before and get A’s. I would study a week before and was happy I could just pass. My fears and anxieties would come go every semester. There were no such thing as an easy class and my mental health and fears made each semester a challenge. I did a lot of praying when I was at Penn State.
By some miracle I graduated from Penn State. I continued to deal with my fears and anxieties. I realized that I would always struggle with these things. A couple of years after I graduated from Penn State I decided to write a book based on the techniques I used to manage my fears and anxieties. Today, my book has helped thousands of people and my book and free articles on my website has been read from all over the world. I also have been on TV and the Radio and published in many magazines.
I also have more than 20 years experience in dealing with fear and anxiety.
I never discuss my fearful problems to my friends and people who know me. I try to live a regular life. My struggles will never go away. I am thankful that I can get by. I know many people who haven’t. I don’t look for sympathy. I focus on getting by than trying to please my friends.
One friend once made a comment to me that “I Have It Easy In Life”. If only they knew.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
How I Broke The Vicious Cycle Of Worry And Fear
By: Stan Popovich
Taking Exams at Penn State was the toughest part at being at Penn State. Each exam was %35 worth your final grade at the end of the semester. This means that if you messed up on one exam you would be lucky if you passed the entire class. If you failed the class, then you would have to retake the entire class again next semester. In addition, there was no such thing as an easy class at Penn State.
Before each major exam, I would worry about If I would be able to pass my exams. My mind would get overwhelmed with fearful thoughts which created more fear and worry which in turned created more fearful thoughts and worry. I was caught up in this vicious cycle of worry and fear which made things even more difficult and scary. I had to do something.
The first thing I did was to learn to take one day at a time. Instead of worrying about next week, I would take each day one at a time. Secondly, I made it a habit to exercise more because exercise would get rid of my negative thoughts and help me to think more clearly. I got in the habit of talking to God about my fears and worries. Using the help of God was a great help. Instead of studying my brains out, I made it a habit to spend some more time with my friends. Doing social activities with my friends was a great stress releaser during exam week.
I also talked to a mental health professional about my fears and she gave me different ideas on how to cope. I also focused on the facts of my current situation. I reasoned that all I could do was my best and if I failed, then I would learn from my mistakes and it would not be the end of the world. The worst case scenario would be to transfer to another school in my area which wasn’t as difficult. Having a plan helped me to relax. Before each exam I would take deep breathes. It was very tough but I passed all my classes and I eventually graduated a few years later.
We all get into that vicious cycling of worrying where you get overwhelmed with worrying and fearful thoughts. This creates more panic and worry and eventually you can’t function because you are a basket case. If you are in this situation try to use the same techniques I did when I was at Penn State. Those techniques I used can be used in any situation that gets us worked up with worry and fear. If you can manage your thoughts, you will stop this viscous cycle of worry. Most importantly use the services of a professional to give you additional advice.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
Taking Exams at Penn State was the toughest part at being at Penn State. Each exam was %35 worth your final grade at the end of the semester. This means that if you messed up on one exam you would be lucky if you passed the entire class. If you failed the class, then you would have to retake the entire class again next semester. In addition, there was no such thing as an easy class at Penn State.
Before each major exam, I would worry about If I would be able to pass my exams. My mind would get overwhelmed with fearful thoughts which created more fear and worry which in turned created more fearful thoughts and worry. I was caught up in this vicious cycle of worry and fear which made things even more difficult and scary. I had to do something.
The first thing I did was to learn to take one day at a time. Instead of worrying about next week, I would take each day one at a time. Secondly, I made it a habit to exercise more because exercise would get rid of my negative thoughts and help me to think more clearly. I got in the habit of talking to God about my fears and worries. Using the help of God was a great help. Instead of studying my brains out, I made it a habit to spend some more time with my friends. Doing social activities with my friends was a great stress releaser during exam week.
I also talked to a mental health professional about my fears and she gave me different ideas on how to cope. I also focused on the facts of my current situation. I reasoned that all I could do was my best and if I failed, then I would learn from my mistakes and it would not be the end of the world. The worst case scenario would be to transfer to another school in my area which wasn’t as difficult. Having a plan helped me to relax. Before each exam I would take deep breathes. It was very tough but I passed all my classes and I eventually graduated a few years later.
We all get into that vicious cycling of worrying where you get overwhelmed with worrying and fearful thoughts. This creates more panic and worry and eventually you can’t function because you are a basket case. If you are in this situation try to use the same techniques I did when I was at Penn State. Those techniques I used can be used in any situation that gets us worked up with worry and fear. If you can manage your thoughts, you will stop this viscous cycle of worry. Most importantly use the services of a professional to give you additional advice.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
6 Tips On How To Deal With A Celebrity Breakup
By: Stan Popovich
Sometimes it can be difficult for celebrities to manage the stress and depression of ending a relationship with someone. Here are some tips on how celebrities can deal with a breakup.
1.Give it some time. At first, you will feel sad and will not want to do anything, however things do get better as time goes on. Give it a month or so and you will feel a little better. Just understand that as more as time goes by, the better you will feel.
2. Meet new people. Do some volunteer work to meet some people and make new friends. Getting involved by helping others will make you feel better and your help could assist many people who may be worse off than you. Go to your local church and see what kinds of volunteer activities are available in the community.
3. Stay Active. Determine what interests you may have and pursue those things you may like to do. Maybe you always wanted to travel someplace and never had the time or maybe you wanted to try a new hobby. This would be a great time to do something you like.
4. Help The Animals. Get involved at your local animal shelter. Animals can be a great source of companionship and they can help uplift our spirits. Animals are a great way to prevent loneliness and many of them need your help. You won’t be sorry if you spend some time playing with a dog, cat or other animal.
5. Learn to manage your negative thinking. When you are depressed, you will tend to think of negative things. When this happens remind yourself that worry exaggerates the problems you have and that things will get better. Try to avoid negative thoughts and remain positive.
6. Stay Optimistic. Remind yourself that you will meet other people and make new friends. Try to go to places where you can meet other people and just be yourself. You never know when you might make a new friend.
Remember that just because you ended a relationship does not mean that you will be alone for the rest of your life. People come and go and with that relationships develop and end. The key is to be the best person you can be and just be yourself. You will feel better a lot faster if you stay active and make the effort to make new friends.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
Sometimes it can be difficult for celebrities to manage the stress and depression of ending a relationship with someone. Here are some tips on how celebrities can deal with a breakup.
1.Give it some time. At first, you will feel sad and will not want to do anything, however things do get better as time goes on. Give it a month or so and you will feel a little better. Just understand that as more as time goes by, the better you will feel.
2. Meet new people. Do some volunteer work to meet some people and make new friends. Getting involved by helping others will make you feel better and your help could assist many people who may be worse off than you. Go to your local church and see what kinds of volunteer activities are available in the community.
3. Stay Active. Determine what interests you may have and pursue those things you may like to do. Maybe you always wanted to travel someplace and never had the time or maybe you wanted to try a new hobby. This would be a great time to do something you like.
4. Help The Animals. Get involved at your local animal shelter. Animals can be a great source of companionship and they can help uplift our spirits. Animals are a great way to prevent loneliness and many of them need your help. You won’t be sorry if you spend some time playing with a dog, cat or other animal.
5. Learn to manage your negative thinking. When you are depressed, you will tend to think of negative things. When this happens remind yourself that worry exaggerates the problems you have and that things will get better. Try to avoid negative thoughts and remain positive.
6. Stay Optimistic. Remind yourself that you will meet other people and make new friends. Try to go to places where you can meet other people and just be yourself. You never know when you might make a new friend.
Remember that just because you ended a relationship does not mean that you will be alone for the rest of your life. People come and go and with that relationships develop and end. The key is to be the best person you can be and just be yourself. You will feel better a lot faster if you stay active and make the effort to make new friends.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
How Celebrities Can Manage The Pressures Of Hollywood
By: Stan Popovich
Many celebrities deal with the pressures of Hollywood on a regular basis. Here are some suggestions on how to manage the stresses and anxieties of dealing with peer pressure when working in Hollywood.
1. Know Where You Stand. Ask yourself if you are willing to do something that your friends want you do. Think about it and determine for yourself where you stand on a certain task or issue. Determine what you want to do in terms of your career goals.
2. Tell Others. Once you know where you stand, you need to communicate this to your friends and other people your intentions. Give them reasons on why you feel this way. Be willing to answer their questions so they understand where you are coming from.
3. Stand Tall. Be firm in your decision and show confidence. Some people will continue to argue with you and this is where you need to show that you mean business. Do not give in to their arguments. Do what is right and stand with your decision.
4. Deal With Supportive Friends. Hang out with different people or friends who do not respect your decisions. If your friends really like you, they need to respect you. Nobody wants to be with people who are trying to get them into some kind of trouble.
5. Stay Consistent. Stay consistent on your values and beliefs. If people see that you are constantly changing your mind then they will not take you seriously. Regardless what you believe in, be consistent in what you preach.
Dealing with the pressures of Hollywood can be tough to deal with, but the important thing is to do what is best for you and advocate this to others. If some people do not like it, then that is their problem.
Biography:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
Many celebrities deal with the pressures of Hollywood on a regular basis. Here are some suggestions on how to manage the stresses and anxieties of dealing with peer pressure when working in Hollywood.
1. Know Where You Stand. Ask yourself if you are willing to do something that your friends want you do. Think about it and determine for yourself where you stand on a certain task or issue. Determine what you want to do in terms of your career goals.
2. Tell Others. Once you know where you stand, you need to communicate this to your friends and other people your intentions. Give them reasons on why you feel this way. Be willing to answer their questions so they understand where you are coming from.
3. Stand Tall. Be firm in your decision and show confidence. Some people will continue to argue with you and this is where you need to show that you mean business. Do not give in to their arguments. Do what is right and stand with your decision.
4. Deal With Supportive Friends. Hang out with different people or friends who do not respect your decisions. If your friends really like you, they need to respect you. Nobody wants to be with people who are trying to get them into some kind of trouble.
5. Stay Consistent. Stay consistent on your values and beliefs. If people see that you are constantly changing your mind then they will not take you seriously. Regardless what you believe in, be consistent in what you preach.
Dealing with the pressures of Hollywood can be tough to deal with, but the important thing is to do what is best for you and advocate this to others. If some people do not like it, then that is their problem.
Biography:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
An important lesson I learned About Peer Pressure
By: Stan Popovich
It was difficult for me to deal with my fears and anxieties and the peer pressure from my friends. Dealing with fear and anxiety on a regular basis was very difficult let alone trying to live up to my expectations from people I knew. I realized that everyone has to deal with some kind of peer pressure in their lives however I found some effective ways in dealing with this issue. Here is what I did to manage the anxieties of dealing with peer pressure.
The most important thing I learned was to stand for what I believed in. For instance, a former manager tried to get me to drink a lot at one of those happy hours after work. I was new at my job and wanted to make a good impression. I also knew that I would have to drive home and I was dead set in not drinking in driving. I had to make a choice. I could please my macho boss and risk getting behind the car or tell my boss “No”. My boss was not happy. After a few months, I never saw him again.
When I was at Penn State, I sometimes hung out with some people who went to the fraternities and Sororities. They liked me and I liked them. The pressures of drinking and trying to fit were there. I was invited to hang out with their groups of friends. I was never a heavy drinker and I stood out. Most of the people that I hung out with drank much more than me. I made a choice to stay sober.
Everyone at that group respected me and they respected my choice. A lot of them liked me even more because I did my thing, I held my ground and I stood tall. For the next three years, I had a very nice time hanging out with my friends who accepted me for who I was. Those same friends were also very helpful in helping me overcome my fears, stresses, and anxieties while I was at Penn State.
Two similar situations with two different outcomes.
I learned that you have to be happy with who you are. You do not need to impress anyone to have a good time or to have friends. It is not fun to be alone and there is always that pressure to fit in, but at what price are you willing to go to fit in.
Your best bet is to find people who will accept you for who you are. It is better to be alone than to hang out with people who pretend to like you or force you do something that will get you into trouble. Remember that if you get into trouble, you will suffer the consequences and not your friends. It is not fun to be with people who do not accept you for who you are.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
It was difficult for me to deal with my fears and anxieties and the peer pressure from my friends. Dealing with fear and anxiety on a regular basis was very difficult let alone trying to live up to my expectations from people I knew. I realized that everyone has to deal with some kind of peer pressure in their lives however I found some effective ways in dealing with this issue. Here is what I did to manage the anxieties of dealing with peer pressure.
The most important thing I learned was to stand for what I believed in. For instance, a former manager tried to get me to drink a lot at one of those happy hours after work. I was new at my job and wanted to make a good impression. I also knew that I would have to drive home and I was dead set in not drinking in driving. I had to make a choice. I could please my macho boss and risk getting behind the car or tell my boss “No”. My boss was not happy. After a few months, I never saw him again.
When I was at Penn State, I sometimes hung out with some people who went to the fraternities and Sororities. They liked me and I liked them. The pressures of drinking and trying to fit were there. I was invited to hang out with their groups of friends. I was never a heavy drinker and I stood out. Most of the people that I hung out with drank much more than me. I made a choice to stay sober.
Everyone at that group respected me and they respected my choice. A lot of them liked me even more because I did my thing, I held my ground and I stood tall. For the next three years, I had a very nice time hanging out with my friends who accepted me for who I was. Those same friends were also very helpful in helping me overcome my fears, stresses, and anxieties while I was at Penn State.
Two similar situations with two different outcomes.
I learned that you have to be happy with who you are. You do not need to impress anyone to have a good time or to have friends. It is not fun to be alone and there is always that pressure to fit in, but at what price are you willing to go to fit in.
Your best bet is to find people who will accept you for who you are. It is better to be alone than to hang out with people who pretend to like you or force you do something that will get you into trouble. Remember that if you get into trouble, you will suffer the consequences and not your friends. It is not fun to be with people who do not accept you for who you are.
BIOGRAPHY:
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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